Reflections from a LifeWays Parent

Reflections from a LifeWays Parent  

by Pete Brands 

This morning as Lena and I approached the parking lot at LifeWays, all was quiet.  It was a bright spring-like morning when the sun promises her warmth, yet, for the moment, sparkling frost still lingered on the wintered blades of grass at our feet.  Brilliant cardinals captured the sun’s rays high in the trees while singing their morning song.  On this day, I experienced something that took my breath away.  Ms. Jaimmie and Ms. Belinda arrived and were transitioning from being responsible drivers, members of their families and communities, living their own, separate lives … to caregivers for our children.  Maybe I’m wrong, but I felt that I was in the presence of something truly surreal.  There was an aura of power surrounding them. They each held their own silence.  A peace came from within them and emanated from them that held my “Good morning!” back for the time.  Even Lena was quiet, which usually means she’s in awe, and watchfully taking things in. 

 

We were in the presence of something truly special.  Here was something every person imagines - seemingly normal human beings transforming into superheroes with shields that withstand rays of whining children, calming powers that subdue even the most upset toddler, gentle guidance through trying times, bright optimistic greetings that warm parents’ hearts for whole days at a time.  Positive influences that shape our most precious possessions into well-rounded, strong, problem solving, self-soothing future adults.  Kids whose love of our world is rooted in a respect for themselves, each other and the highest regard for Mother Earth. 

It felt like one breath and a few steps towards the door was all they needed to make the transition - one I’m sure each wonderful caregiver makes.  I found myself so humbled by the experience, like witnessing a solar eclipse. I am moved to tears just recounting it.  We are in the presence of the most amazing people.  I sometimes wish for more children just to be able to continue entering the world that lies beyond those doors and down the stairs.  May we all remember to take those breaths, be conscious of the moments we need, and step up to be the best examples not only for our children, but for our communities great and small.